I state up front that I am a newbie. Sir and I have only been exploring D/s for eight months, and we are learning as we go. I know that correction is part of this lifestyle. I have…um….earned my share of it: corner time, writing, denial, and spanking. Sir is strict. However, He is also tender. And He knows my and my heart.
I have read some about correction, discipline, and consequences, and I have to say I am so very thankful for Sir and for His particular temperament. There have been times when He has expressed disappointment during our time together and He has said He was singing off for the night or turning in, and that we would not talk again until tomorrow. There have been times that He has been very firm, with no room in His voice or demeanor for softness. I have been spanked, I have been in the corner, I have been denied playtime with Him, I have cried tears over disappointing Him.
I have never been shunned. Never been sent away not knowing when or if I would be allowed to return. Truthfully, I cannot imagine such a thing. I am not particularly high maintenance. I do not get
in a wad” if Sir has to work long hours and several days or so pass without there being much contact. I don’t get miffed about things like that. And Sir is understanding of me as well because I am a mother and I work. But….if tonight He became displeased and told me, “maybe you will hear from ME in six months, girl,” I must confess…….I am not sure I would have any desire to return if He DID call for me. When someone has become completely open and vulnerable, to rip away support unilaterally for a long stretch of time……I am not sure I consider that correction. I would come closer to considering it cruelty.
Am I just a newbie? Possibly. But I can say with certainty that a Dominant who used those types of shunning corrections would not want me for a submissive….and vice versa.
There. That is my inexperienced thought for the day 🙂